Both Sides Now

Bows and flows of angel hair and ice cream castles in the air
And feathered canyons everywhere, I've looked at clouds that way.
But now they only block the sun, they rain and snow on everyone.
So many things I would have done, but clouds got in my way.
I've looked at clouds from both sides now
From up and down and still somehow
It's cloud's illusions I recall
I really don't know clouds, at all

Tears and fears and feeling proud, to say "I love you" right out loud
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds, I've looked at life that way
But now old friends are acting strange, they shake their heads, they say I've changed
But something's lost and something's gained, in living every day
I've looked at life from both sides now
From win and lose and still somehow
It's life's illusions I recall
I really don't know life, at all

From "Both Sides Now" by Joni Mitchell

On and off for the last 30 years, I've worked with individuals who have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease and other forms of dementia.  I worked my way through college as a nursing assistant in a nursing home, held several positions in long term care facilities and geriatric mental health, and facilitated two different support groups for caregivers.  I know the statistics and the warning signs.  I've presented them numerous times to various community groups.  But when you see the signs in your own family member, you become like every other family member living with the effects of this devastating disease.  Do I have anything to offer of value for individuals and family members dealing with dementia?  I don't know.  The song lyrics seem to end on a down note.  But I'd like to think that there are always at least two ways to look at life, and things.  If there is anyway that my experience, professional and personal, could encourage someone else, then let me do so.