I knew it had been a while since I posted, but had no idea how long. One reason is that I wonder what on earth I might have useful to share. I attended a workshop session by a neurologist on the latest findings on Alzheimer's Disease. Now he had a lot of valuable information to share. But, I feel like this is something God has called me to do. Who am I to second guess God. The second reason is that there has been a lot going on at the assisted living, and it has brought up a lot of my own questions. One of the residents was diagnosed with a terminal illness. The plan was for her to go back to where she has lots of family. But the illness progressed faster than expected and now she can't make the trip.
It has brought back my struggle with my parents being in another state and no other family close to them. Do I try to talk them into moving to our town? One the one hand, they would be close and we could spend time together while they are still in fairly good health. And then when it gets bad, they won't be by themselves. On the other hand, should they give up their friends and activities so we can see them maybe once a week? I still have to work full time and am lucky enough to have a full time job. That doesn't seem quite fair either. There isn't just one right answer. And even for every family, there are several good possibilities. I get so frustrated when there are well meaning friends who tell people that the choice they made is what everyone should do. Too bad it isn't that easy. There would be a lot fewer stressed out parents and children if that were so.
At the same time, I know what the future will bring. I've watched other families deal with it for almost 30 years now. I don't want to wait until Mom can't remember who I am to make the move. It would be really nice to make some memories that at least I will have before then. What to do, what to do.
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